Judge John Hodgman on Wedding Traditions

Brandon writes: My fiancée, Ashley, is in opposition to marriage ceremony traditions just like the garter toss and notably the “cake smash,” the place bride and groom smear frosting on one another’s face. But I’m an enormous fan of those traditions! Please order a cake-smash compromise.

The best and most simply path is to separate the distinction: Ashley shoves a bit of cake in your face, the tip. But it’s greatest you be taught early that beneath the icing of negotiation, marriage is definitely a number of layers of zero-sum-game sponge cake. Big questions — whether or not to have youngsters, the place to stay, what to have for dinner on Wednesday — will usually come right down to deep, immovable choice that can not be solved by compromise however by one-party give up. The trick is to suss out these contentious factors earlier than you’re formally smearing something on one another after which share the surrenders equitably.